Love/ Hate

And this is one of those hurdles.

I struggle with being a people pleaser. 

I have have struggled with this idea that I needed other people's approval in order to be happy, in order to assure myself that I was doing a good job.

 I needed constant assurance that I was doing a good job. 

And WHY? 

Because I was not secure in my own heart and head.

I have lived my entire life wondering the fact that perhaps I had disappointed someone and it always made me so sad. I lived my life hoping that I would never disappoint my parents, my grandparents, my family. And my entire thought process at times was centered around this rather than focusing on what my own thoughts and views were.

And you now what? 

It is GOING TO HAPPEN. 

And you have no control over other people's views or thoughts of you 

and your work 

and your heart 

and your actions. 

It is all on THEM and THEM alone.

It is all on them and has NOTHING to do with you...it is out of your control...

So why waste the energy and thought process on their approval and spend more valuable time working on YOU?

Why the  constantly need to have someone elses' approval? 

What should COUNT is did you feel success?

 Did you personally acheive an inner goal you set? 

What did you learn from the process?

And NEVER FORGET...be kind on yourself...

Be soft and always find a positive in each life experience.

There are always successes in amongst the life learning experiences. 

Areas of Opportunity to make yourself better. 

Make sure you find those in order to feel successful and work towards trying to silence the negative thoughts. 

Silence this constant need to please others and work on YOU and YOUR OWN VOICE.

You are your own biggest negative critic.

It's time to quiet the inner critic and work on finding the point where the one who defines your own success is YOU and YOU ALONE.